Individual Intensives
It’s Time to Outgrow the Patterns That Keep You Stuck
It’s common to feel successful on the outside—a leader, a professional, a parent—but be plagued by a deep, internal shame.
All of us are haunted by something: an unwanted behavior, the trauma of betrayal, or a profound lack of desire. In time, we become exhausted from fighting the same battle over and over, feeling stuck and wondering if anyone could understand the full story.
You are not alone, and you don’t have to stay stuck.
My name is Jay, and I’ve spent over 15 years guiding high-achieving men, women, and couples to heal the hidden stories that drive their most persistent challenges.
Your story doesn’t just show that you’re stuck—it also provides clues to help you find the way out. I have a proven process to help you understand it, heal it, and finally get free.
A 3-Day Intensive to Reclaim Your Life
The Individual Intensive is a transformative 3-day, one-on-one process designed to uncover the why behind your struggles and give you the tools to change.
Over three 4-hour sessions, we will:
- Uncover the Origins: We’ll go beyond the symptoms to find the real, often hidden, origins of the patterns keeping you stuck.
- Understand Your Story: We will discover how your life experiences—even your unwanted fantasies or significant betrayals—are a map, revealing your deepest wounds and your path toward healing.
- Create a Path Forward: You will leave with a new understanding of yourself and a practical, personalized plan to break free from shame and live with greater integrity, freedom, and desire.
Imagine:
- Finally understanding why you do what you do.
- Breaking free from the cycles of shame and self-hatred.
- Feeling whole, known, and empowered in your life and relationships.
This isn’t just about stopping a behavior; it’s about reclaiming your life.
Ready to Begin?
This journey is difficult, but you don’t have to do it alone. I would be honored to guide you.
What’s Included
Take a life-changing deeper dive into how your story is shaping your unwanted sexual behavior or betrayal trauma. Each Individual Intensive includes:
- 12 hours of individual coaching over 3 days with Jay (not therapy)
- Pre-work assignments
- The Sexual Behavior Self-Assessment
- 30-minute consult follow-up
- Special pricing on The Journey Course.
Testimonials
“I was afraid to do story work, as I knew there were many areas of my life that would be exposed and I preferred to ‘let sleeping dogs lie’. However, I began to engage my own story in earnest two years ago after having a crisis in my wife’s family and seeing my unwanted behaviors spike.
I made some progress in unearthing stories through weekly counseling, but I still felt stuck in both sexual and non-sexual unwanted behaviors. At this point, I scheduled my three-day intensive with Jay.
The main story we discussed involved my relationship with my father. Jay was able to help me unpack the story arc of my formative years through the lens of my father and mother in a way that I had never considered. I never thought about how these primary relationships created the relationship I have with my wife and daughter in such obvious and concrete ways.
My intensive influenced me to take ownership of how I have caused harm to the immediate relationships of my life and apologize. I don’t think I had every truly apologized for something in my life without defending myself at least a little bit.
Jay invited me to step into restorative rhythms in my life, which has led to a weekly group being formed within my community. Jay came and spoke to my community about where unwanted behaviors came from last year, which led to us launching our own story group in which we share together and heal together.
Jay’s book “Unwanted” has been a formative book for my discipleship group to better understand how our soul’s are shaped. It would be difficult to quantify how much I appreciated my intensive with Jay and the ongoing relationship we have had.
This intensive changed my life.”
Jay has a remarkable gift of helping people heal. Like a great surgeon with precision, he has gone into some deeply rooted traumatic areas of my life that I never would have acknowledged. This excavation of my story is actually allowing me to experience freedom from the debris of so much sexual brokenness. My intensive shined light in the darkness and invited me to see my beauty. I’m forever grateful for my intensive.”
Jay’s narrative approach helped me dig into very formative years that I had previously glossed over. He provided language to the truth I had experienced and provided a pathway to freedom steeped in the grace and goodness of my personal faith. Our time together felt as if I was sitting down with a deeply insightful, caring friend who thoughtfully prodded me towards wholeness that I desperately needed.
The organizational structure of the three days was well thought through where we would meet for an hour or two, take a break and repeat for the business hours of the days I was there. This provided space for me to process what we were discussing and he had recommendations of how my free time could be structured. I was concerned the three days would feel constantly heavy and while there was some truth to that, I left Jay’s office feeling lighter than I had in years.
For anyone considering this intensive time with Jay, I would recommend him and his methodology to any person seeking freedom from what has bound them up. His expertise, research-based approach and insight is honestly invaluable. I believe no one can leave time with Jay unchanged.”
