by adminjay | Mar 11, 2018 | Articles, Covenant Eyes
To be sure, lust is one of the most important contributing factors to sexual brokenness. But in our excessive focus on lust, we have lost sight of the other interrelated factor that drives sexual sin more than all the rest: anger. Despite the potential damage lust and...
by adminjay | Mar 11, 2018 | Articles, Outreach Magazine, Read Jay's Blogs
What if I told you that your use of pornography could reveal your way to healing? As a licensed mental health counselor and ordained minister, I’ve seen firsthand that sexual brokenness is the stage through which the work of redemption can play out in our lives....
by adminjay | Mar 11, 2018 | Articles, Read Jay's Blogs, The Allender Center
The evangelical community’s preoccupation with combatting lust has over-simplified and trivialized a far more complex issue within human sexuality. We exert tremendous effort attempting to stop our sexual fantasies, but neglect the critical task of understanding what...
by adminjay | Mar 7, 2018 | Articles, Read Jay's Blogs
Women now make up 30% of all pornography users. For too long, society has presumed pornography to be an exclusively “man’s issue.”[i] The continued cultural silence for female pornography use has driven many women further into the shadows. Silence intensifies shame...
by adminjay | Oct 17, 2017 | Articles, Read Jay's Blogs
For too long, the evangelical community has treated sexual fantasies and sexual struggles as something to condemn. Addressing sexual fantasies through the lens of abhorrent behavior intensifies shame and therefore deepens your involvement in the very behavior you wish...
by adminjay | Jul 8, 2017 | Articles, Read Jay's Blogs
I worked for a community mental health clinic in downtown Seattle for the first two years after graduate school. The clients at this location were considered the most severely traumatized and chemically dependent residents in the city. On my first day of work, my...
